Waking up to the unconscious beliefs in your mind is an unconfortable and disconcernting realization. Realizing your unconscious beliefs have been leading you in a dream world of unnecessary emotional reactions, and sabotaging behaviors, all based on illusions in the mind is confusing and we often react with judgment and denial. It can also create [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Reasoning Your Way Out of FearMost fears are not rational. When we apply some skilled common sense and awareness to them we can detach. However applying reasoning skills to overcoming fears is an uphill battle. That’s because the emotions we feel push us against accepting truthful reasoning. That’s because our fictional, or false beliefs often make us feel better [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Overcoming Fear of What Others Think of YouThere is a structure of beliefs that support the fear of what others think of you. When you dismantle these beliefs, your fear dissipates, as well as the internal dialog that it drives. In this podcast I guide you through some of the resistance you will probably find when you attempt to overcome your fears.
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Overcoming Controlling Behavior of Jealousy and AngerDavid started the Self Mastery audio program because he discovered some things about himself that he didn’t like. It was principally the emotions and behaviors of jealousy, anger, and being controlling in relationships. He had been doing it for more than 25 years but was not aware of it. It was difficult to see himself [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Fear and Origins of the Financial CrisisI cover how to use awareness to break free of fearful resistance to taking action. Jut for fun I also get into understanding origins of the financial crisis. Credit default swaps, lobbying by banks to lower their equity reserve requirements, and speculation is not what caused the financial bubble and subsequent meltdown. These changes in [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Dealing With Financial FearsDealing with and overcoming financial fears isn’t a one step process. Those fears can be intertwined with real survival needs for the body like food, shelter, and providing for your children. Financial fears can also be from projected scenarios in the imagination that have nothing to do with reality. The imagination is a big source [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Feeling Not Good Enough - BeliefsI wrote an article about feeling not good enough. It relates to issues of insecurity. A big component of feeling insecure is the image of perfection that we create in our mind. When the voice in our head compares us to that image of perfection it concludes that we are not good [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
The Four Agreements and Hidden AssumptionsOf don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements most people will say that the hardest one to keep is Don’t Take Anything Personally. I don’t agree. The most challenging agreement is actually Be Impeccable with Your Word. In taking something personal you take what someone said and express an interpretation that makes it personal. We invest our faith in the [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Emotional reactionsWhen it comes to stopping or changing emotional reactions people often approach the problem like they are fixing a car. They ask, “How can I change this reaction?” or “How can I stop my jealousy, anger, frustration etc.” The assumption seems to be that if we change one thing the whole problem will go away. [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Happiness As ChoiceMost people spend their whole lives looking for some measure of happiness. Why is it so elusive? What creates happiness? People will tell you that material things or other people won’t make you happy. Experts will advise you that in order to be happy you first have to make yourself happy. What they usually can’t [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Love Relationships Part 1Understanding Desire and Yearning in Relationships
Desires for a relationship come from deep within us. They aren’t desires for a specific person so much as a need for expression and experience of connection and feeling that we can have with another person. Those desires include the emotion of love, physical affection, and sexual satisfaction. It is [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Love Relationships Part IIUnderstanding Conflicting Desires
Our body has physical desires, our emotions have a desire to express love, and our mind has a desire to have its beliefs and expectations met. This can create some internal conflict that gets more complicated when we add another person’s desires to the mix. The desires from the body and emotions are natural and [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Identify and Change Core BeliefsWhat are core beliefs and how do you identify them? That’s what many people are realizing they need to do to change their emotional reactions. The problem is where do you look to find core beliefs? They are in the mind but can be hard to pin down, particularly when it is [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Fear and Overcoming FearOvercome fear by gaining mastery over your core beliefs.
Fear is that emotional force that drives us in a direction away from joy, happiness, and love. Fear can paralyze us to the point that we feel helpless and suffocated. Often fear appears irrational, but it only looks this way at the surface. When you scrutinize the stories [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Fear of Love and HappinessIt might be hard to believe that we fear love and happiness, but it is a real dynamic that happens in the mind. It is easier to understand if we consider the mind to be a living being with many different aspects. If we attempt to change our beliefs and behavior, then we are making [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Can You Change Your LifeI often get asked if people can really change their life. They want to known if they can overcome fears, stop the judgments, and quiet the voice in their head. The answer is yes. However, when people ask, they usually ask with such fear and doubt that almost no amount of words will suffice. Perhaps [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
The Ego Mind and ConsciousnessIn a Four Agreements workshop I shared a model for understanding consciousness and the ego mind. I recorded the workshop and part of it makes up this mp3 audio podcast. Understanding the ego mind and understanding consciousness means becoming aware of the way our mind dreams. The ego mind has more than just thoughts and [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
Don’t Take Anything PersonallyHow to Not Take Things Personally
In the book, The Four Agreements, Miguel Ruiz outlines a code of conduct for creating love and happiness in your life. One of his Four Agreements is “Don’t Take Anything Personally. In this podcast I describe some of the hidden assumptions that cause us to take things personally. [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website
How to Tell If a Relationship Will WorkHow can you tell if a relationship will work out? There are specific indicators to tell if your relationship will run into trouble down the road. The signs aren’t found in how much love, romance, or physical attraction there is. Two people can have great chemistry but still not be compatible.
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Free WillDo you have free will? Is there even such a thing as Free Will? It is true that we are to some degree products of our environment. Our minds get filled with ideas, beliefs, and emotional patterns as we grow up. We are socialized to become a collection of habits and [...]Listen | Listen in your iPhone | Download | View full cache | Visit Website